Many of us having lying eyes and don’t even know it.
You are probably wondering what I mean by “lying eyes”. First let me say that it is a real thing that happens to millions of people every day. How do I know it’s real? I will begin by describing how I came to know this term first-hand and boy was I shocked.
How many times have you looked in the mirror and said to yourself, “I’ve still got it” or “Lookin good!” while observing your hair and makeup? Many times, I’m sure. We are confident and like who we are and that’s good. But the same face staring back at us in the mirror doesn’t seem to have those same flaws in our skin, bags under our eyes and wrinkles. You are probably thinking that mirrors don’t lie and I would agree with you. So why does this happen?
The problem isn’t with the mirror, its with our aging eyes! When you look in the mirror you don’t see the wrinkles here or there, or even worse the black hairs that seem to have sprouted overnight along your upper lip and and under your chin. Why? Because you aren’t getting a close up look in the bathroom or bedroom mirror to see all the hairs and wrinkles. Meanwhile you’ve been sporting around town in your new fancy shorts and no sleeve summer top and people have been checking you out. You like the attention and then you hear some old song that reminds you when you were younger and the feel good hormones keep coming.
While you’re strutting down the street feeling good, you suddenly get a glimpse of yourself in a store window. It makes you stop in your tracks and you are shocked by what you see! Needless to say you aren’t looking so hot as you thought in that outfit. Then you ask yourself, “How could I have bought this outfit?” Or the reality of your weight makes you look much larger in the glass. Then you look down and catch a glimpse of some dark spots on your legs. Was it lint from the dryer or cat hairs? Actually, it’s neither one. It’s runway stripes of black leg hairs you missed while shaving because you didn’t wear your glasses in the shower. Like any self respecting good women would do, you blame it on those cheap, no good razors you bought from the dollar store. In an instant, that confident, sexy woman is reduced to a wreck who wants to crawl in a hole and disappear. Especially when you realize that the looks you received were not from guys flirting, it was due to your runway stripes of black hairs on your legs! You just couldn’t see them.
One incident that really began to drive this point home involved putting on makeup in the car (of course I wasn’t driving). The bright morning sunlight was streaming into the car which made it easier for me to put on makeup. The handy magnifying mirror really helped put on eyeliner and that’s when I caught a glimpse of hairs on my upper lip and a few long, black hairs that were under my chin. I was “horrified” and totally embarrassed that everyone at work have been seeing this for days and no one said anything. I was so embarrassed. After this incident, I vowed to go on “hair patrol” every morning before I went into the office.
The medical term for the “lying eyes” phenomena is called Reduced pupil size and it happens gradually as you age. It begins in your 40’s and by your 60’s you may notice it even more. The muscles that control our pupil size lose strength as we age, but it also affects the pupil’s reaction to light. You may have noticed needing more light when you read and that is because our pupils become smaller and less responsive to changes in natural light in a room. All About Vision says that Someone in their 60’s will need three times more ambient light to read than a 20 year old.
So what’s my solution to this “lying eyes” problem? First, tell yourself that everything will be okay and follow these simple steps. Second, continue to maintain a healthy self-esteem regardless of any incidents. Third, if you don’t have a full length mirror go out and buy one. Fourth, if you don’t have a makeup magnifying mirror go out and buy one right away. Lastly, look for facial hairs every morning while in the parking lot. You’ll thank me later!
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